Thursday, February 01, 2007

Mummy-fied again

I had barely finished ranting about the fact that hubby calls me ‘mamma’ that another of these home truths hit me.

We had just finished getting sonny’s hair-cut at one of these ‘kids-only’ hair cutting places. As usual, sonny had wailed and bawled and let loose the ‘ganga jamuna’. I was pacifying him when a 5 ish year old walked up to us. She looked at sonny and said “o the baby is crying”. “I have a baby at home too” she added.

After a small pause, she said “and I have a mommy”


Me: “I have a mommy too”

At this she scrunched her nose and furrowed her brows and looked at me – and then at her mom.


Girl: “I said I have a mommy too”

Me: “I know. I also have a mommy”


At this she gave me the top-down appraisal, nodded her head and said “but you ARE a mommy”


I just kept staring at her and the realization hit me – that I had been effectively pushed over to the other side of the border. No more was I this person with relations of my own. I was a mommy. And just with that statement a whole list of adjectives and descriptors had been imposed on me. Henceforth, every person, younger than me by a couple of decades, had the right to look me top to bottom and dismiss me with a “you’re a mommy!”

I wonder what my mom would have to say to that.

22 Comments:

At 8:12 AM, Blogger Sanjay said...

LOL.. that is sort of funny. Don't let it get to you ok? I don't tend to think of ppl like that, maybe cos I don't have kids? Even if I did I still think I would think the same.

 
At 12:22 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello mummy-ji :)

;)..sorry can't stop laughing..and I know I am being mean...I am a mom too and this happens to me too but the fact that it is bothering you is amusing me :)..o.k. will stop now, promise :), no really will stop now

bye mummy-ji :)

orchid
http://d-orchid.blogspot.com

 
At 4:23 AM, Blogger That Armchair Philosopher said...

hahahaha. this is the sort of realization which hit me when I was in Delhi a few years ago.. I was walking down the street in a marketplace and these 2 kids whiz past, saying something on the lines of "Excuse me, uncle".

I was like - "Whaaa"? Me? Uncle? And then the epiphany strikes - once you cross a certain height, anyone shorter than you and younger, switches you from "Bhaiya" to "Uncle".

Sigh. And I'm not even that old.

 
At 5:41 AM, Blogger The Mad Momma said...

oh dont go there please... a few days back i was trying to tell my brother something abt a trend... when he looked me up and down and said "what would you know... do bacchon ki ma...don't try and act cool"....

so no, we are not ppl anymore. we are mummies. period.

 
At 8:45 AM, Anonymous itchy said...

sweet... inspite of yourself i felt like laughing at this

 
At 4:26 PM, Blogger Fuzzylogic said...

Lol,the story of our lives!If it makes you feel any better I think all us mommies suffer this same fate,the other day I was on the phone with my cousin in India who is just few years younger than me and we were talking about how she wanted one of those latest fashion tees and I said I will get them for her as I also have one such tee with me.She totally gasped at the other end and said "You can't wear that,you are now a mummy" I swear she survived because she lived so many miles away from me at that moment!

 
At 4:29 PM, Blogger Fuzzylogic said...

Lol,the story of our lives!If it makes you feel any better I think all us mommies suffer this same fate,the other day I was on the phone with my cousin in India who is just few years younger than me and we were talking about how she wanted one of those latest fashion tees and I said I will get them for her as I also have one such tee with me.She totally gasped at the other end and said "You can't wear that,you are now a mummy" I swear she survived because she lived so many miles away from me at that moment!

 
At 7:49 PM, Blogger Alan said...

She'd probably say, "Welcome to the club." It was a rather cute story.

 
At 7:50 PM, Blogger lumi said...

Too cute! Yes, there comes a moment when you cross over to the other side and become one of "them". Then the moment comes and you say to yourself "Oh my god, I have become my mother"! Mommies are people too, some people just need to be reminded of that, but it is the greatest title I have.

 
At 2:19 AM, Anonymous OrangeJammies said...

congratulate yourself, honey! you are now officially on the World's Most Crucial People list!!
The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, remember??? =0)

 
At 6:18 PM, Anonymous NZ said...

Cute :-) I know you don't think its funny, but the way you have written it - I am laughing too. And yes, welcome to the club ;-)

 
At 5:17 AM, Blogger Rohini said...

If you ever figure out how to make haircuts more pleasant for all concerned, I want to be the first to know!

 
At 4:13 AM, Blogger Usha said...

hahahahahah....sorry could n't help laughing.
But ya when you are a mommy, you are supposed to have transcended it all - so dont expect to be treated like other mortals.
I can imagine how you felt though.

 
At 7:52 AM, Blogger iz said...

you know, I've actually reached teh stage where i don't mind being called auntie! Time. Our greatest enemy!

 
At 11:53 PM, Blogger Fuzzylogic said...

Hey STS!you have been MIA for sometime.Hope everything is fine!

 
At 5:22 PM, Blogger noon said...

Very cute! My mom once told me and my cousins when we were visiting an old lady who knew my mother as a child - you know I was a little girl once too - playing in a hay stack in the back yard!
BTW - how good are these kids only hair salons? Worth it? Want to try one - kiddo needs a real hair cut - not the trim I give in the bath tub.

 
At 7:29 AM, Blogger Has to be me said...

This reminds me of how the smaller girls started calling me aunty just cos i was married! Have seen other similar instances too!

 
At 2:18 PM, Blogger Orchid said...

STS,
what's up? haven't seen you around in a while..hope everything's o.k ?

 
At 10:46 PM, Blogger Fuzzylogic said...

Just checking in.Hope you are fine.

 
At 3:41 PM, Blogger @ said...

lost? haven't seen you around lately and your blog is falling asleep too - everything ok?

 
At 4:23 PM, Blogger Alan said...

Hi, Just making the rounds. Hope all is well.

 
At 1:00 PM, Blogger Revealed said...

Reminds me of Mary in St.Aubyn's Mother's Milk :D

 

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