Saturday, August 25, 2007

Timing is everything

There's this saying in Hindi "Samay se pehle aur naseeb se zyaada kuch nahin milta". Loosely translated it means - you will get what is meant for you at the moment it was ordained and as much as it was ordained.

And this statement is sooo true for sonny. His mom can spend days/weeks/months agonizing over something. But he will achieve that milestone - just when the time is right.

After religiously feeding him chicken stock or chicken bits at every meal, meal after meal and watching him spit it out each time. I finally gave up. And one fine day, when I casually put a piece in his mouth - there he was chomping it down.

He wouldnt touch the roti - preferring to eat just his khichdi - until one fine day he started eating just the roti - and abandoning the rice instead.

While all kids his age took their first independent steps at about a year, sonny preferred to wait until he was 15 months old. While his ma agonized and wrung her hands before pediatricians. And that too he waited for the day he knew his father would be out of town on business. For 4 days. And he just casually walked across the room. Turned back and saw his ma slump onto the floor ( o she is dramatic that way). And his father was crushed to know that his son chose this day to take his first steps - when he wasnt around. He's a mean fella - my sonny.

And while kids his age were saying baby words -he decided to keep maun-vrath (do no talking). And one day out of the blue told his father "you stay right here" ( do we hear his mom's echo here?). Just like that and sauntered off. That statement hasnt been repeated again. O and he told a kid at the pool "lets get out and play". While ma has been pleading to get a word out of this boy, some random kid is bestowed with a full sentence. A kid, who doesnt even understand his language. Didnt I tell you he was a mean fella?

So whats the point of this post? Timing. Sonny will do, eat, walk, speak, whatever, just when he wants. Mom can go blogging her woes. Sonny doeth when sonny wish-eth.

And so mommy here is readying herself for another milestone. Toilet training. Again, experts tell you - timing is everything. If he doesnt show readiness - let him be. Try again after a couple of weeks. Let the child decide.
Yeah yeah! I know that. Thats what I've been doing for the past 26 months.



At 1:51 AM, Blogger noon said...

Yeah totally agree...they have their own timing for everything!
Good luck with potty training! Will be eager to see how it goes...

At 11:56 AM, Blogger the mad momma said...

sigh. its very annoying when people tell you that, while you are fretting over a milestone not met - but frankly - what other option do we have but to wait?!

At 3:00 PM, Blogger DotMom said...

Sonny sounds like Chip who crawled at 9mo, walked and 14mo and did not speak until he was 2. We rae in the middle of toilet training woes too. He will go one day and have gazillion accidents the next. sigh. like you say they will come when they will come.

At 2:01 AM, Blogger Poppins said...

Yes Yes Yes I needed to hear that

At 4:57 AM, Blogger Moppet's Mom said...

I love your calm perspective on this and agree with it 100%. I do wish I had the strength of mind to put it into practice though :-)

Good luck with the potty training!

At 5:41 AM, Blogger Sunita said...

Oh needed to hear that and I was complaining about my 16 month old not picking up enough :)

At 4:26 PM, Blogger Kodi's Mom said...

right on! this is the ultimate mommy wisdom.

as for potty training, ain't happening this year for us :)

At 3:30 AM, Blogger Just Like That said...

Sonny boy turned over late, sat up late, walked late, spoke anything other than goo gaa baa late, and is writing late too... but yeah, he was potty trained pretty early!

Yeah, no need to fret,
All ready will get
When the time is right!

At 3:32 AM, Blogger WhatsInAName said...

Loved the humor :)
You can make anything appear sunny and bright!

But yes, you have a point. No point comparing kids. They are smart and will do things at their own pace.

I had a tough time with toilet training! Sigh!


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